Mother's Day Letter to My Mom


At 16 my mother kicked me out of the house. I've only seen her a handful of times in the past 27 years. The last time was 15 years ago to introduce to her granddaughter. That conversation lasted 10 minutes in her drive way and she asked us to leave.

I wrote a letter to her 5 years ago - I asked her for forgiveness and understood that she had to do something to protect my younger half brother. I never heard back from her. I shared that letter with at the time. Well here's my update to my mom.

Dear Mom,

It's been 5 years and a lot has happened. Wes is 24 years old now and has returned to war. This time he is in Kuwait where he is a lot safer than he was his last tour of duty in Samara, Iraq. Wes is a hero! Amanda has grown into a beautiful 15 year old young lady inside and out. She's into photography and modeling. She saved all her money to go to modeling school. Now I have to watch out for all the boys!!! I'm teaching her to drive too and she's good at it. Spencer …. He's our quite one. But, coming out of his shell and blossoming very well. He's 8 and in his second season of Baseball. You should see him run the bases and hit that ball.

We have a new little Dempsey in the family. Elijah. We adopted him last November. He'll be two next week. Amy and I became foster parents 2 years ago and have had many children come through our home. Elijah was our first and now we're his forever home. He's ALL BOY and into everything. I am hopeful you'll get to meet him and Spencer one day.

Another thing has happened. Your son is now healthy. I was over 300 pounds when I wrote you last. With the help of an entire community I lost 140 pounds. Have run 5 marathons, 5 triathlons, cycled across three states with Mark Schultz for Orphans and Widows, cycled from here to Austin, Tx for cancer research and for the past four years cycle for Miracle Hill in their Cycling Challenge. There have been a few people that have told me I've inspired them to get healthy and have been successful.

I'm still a Christ Follower. My faith is strong I work hard to be the best husband and parent I can be. I stumble and fall short but try as hard as I can to be there for my family. You'd love Amy's spirit. She is the perfect wife and mother. I have a feeling you'd have a great relationship with her one day.

Mom, I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for the way I treated you. I realize the sacrifices you made as a single mom. You lived through an abusive husband when I was 5 who treated the both of us verbally and physically bad - Then having to raise two boys on your own. I rebelled and disrespected you and brought bad things into the house. I do understand why you made the tough love decision to kick me out. It was for Jody. You had to keep him safe. So, I humbly ask for your forgiveness.

As always the invitation is open. Your family is here waiting for you.

Happy Mother's Day - Your Son,

Furman to Ceasar's Head


Found a map so I don't get lost for my next trip to Caesar's Head. I got lost twice on training rides.